When You Own it All…

The classic wedding gift registry is full of everything a young couple would need to set-up their first home. Pans, dishes, silverware, appliances…but what if you already own these items?  What if you already have everything you need to be a”happy homemaker” because you have lived on your own for several years or more. You could register for new items, which could be a nice treat! Or you may want your friends and relatives to spend their money on something special that you actually want and not just another coffee pot that you do not need.

For over 10 years there has been a quiet industry brewing in the background: the Honeymoon Registry Market. A honeymoon can be a huge expense that might seem more feasible if some of cost is shared with your entire guest list. At the same time, just asking for your guest to give you a check or cash seems so impersonal that they still end up buying you that serving dish or teapot you did not want. What if you could customize your dream honeymoon and then guests could buy pieces of your honeymoon to give you as a gift.? Pieces could include one night stay in the hotel, a couple’s massage or a romantic dinner. All of these pieces come together to build your romantic getaway, thanks to all of your friends and family.

The trick is finding a honeymoon registry service that is easy enough to navigate and use for your Aunt Betty who is not tech savvy or Cousin Bob who does follow directions well. Be sure that you feel comfortable with the process from the user end to buy honeymoon pieces from your registry or to contribute money directly to the overall honeymoon.

Here is a list of 5 honeymoon registry services, each offering their own spin on gift registries and honeymoons (along with 5 honeymoon recommendations that we think are awesome!)

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Mount Iliamna, Alaska

#1 Wanderable – this site helps couples discover, plan and book their dream travel experiences (no fees!)

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Rome, Italy

#2 Honeyfund – crowdfunding site for weddings, honeymoons, down payments,  and charities

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Bora-Bora in French Polynesia

#3 Wed & Wish – This is for more than honeymoons but for all of your gift wishes.

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German Cruise Ship “Aida”

#4 Honeymoon Pixe – Select from one of our pre-built honeymoon registries… it couldn’t be easier!

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Oia, Greece

#5 Traveler’s Joy – This is one of the original honeymoon sites, open since 2004, which means it has had plenty of time to master the art of registering for a honeymoon!

Comparison Shopping: 

How do you choose a honeymoon registry? We recommend these articles to help you make a decision:

The Ultimate Guide to Honeymoon Registries 

The Honeymoon Registry Comparison Chart 

Honeymoon Registry: Which one is Best for You?

Why Keep the Cake?

Keep the Cake? Why did we choose this name for our business? Before I explain, let’s talk about wedding cakes.

Why do we practice the tradition of saving the top tier of the wedding cake? The tradition dates back to the 19th century when multi-tier wedding cakes first became popular. Newlyweds would save the top tier of the cake for the next big celebration in the life of a married couple…the christening of their 1st child (since the birth of a baby would typically happen during the 1st year of marriage).

Times have changed and we don’t see many babies born in the 1st year of marriage anymore. The tradition of eating the top tier of the wedding cake has transformed into a celebration of the 1st year of marriage as a whole. You can now refer to the top tier as the “Anniversary Tier.”

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One bite and you are transported back to that memorable moment when you fed each other a bite of cake at your reception…or maybe smashed it into your loved one’s face! Flash forward and you both reflect on all of the other memorable moments that have filled your 1st year of marital bliss (the good, the bad, the ugly and the funny). All with one bite of your frozen delight – you think about your past, present and future together.

What does this all mean for Keep the Cake? On the surface it is a simple name. We host wedding consignment fairs where we can sell almost everything from your wedding. We cannot, however, sell your cake. Why? There’s the obvious reason that perishables won’t survive with us… and besides your cake was so delicious I am sure there is nothing left to share! All joking aside, we want the reason we cannot sell your cake to be because that deliciously perfect little top tier is sitting patiently in the freezer, waiting for your 1st Anniversary.

So remember, as you plan on participating with us as a Seller or a Buyer:

Keep the Cake, We Sell the Rest! 

Check out these articles for tips on how to preserve your wedding cake to survive one year in your freezer:

Saving the Top Tier of your Wedding Cake 

How to Preserve the Top Tier of your Wedding Cake

For more on the History of Cake, including the story of the wedding cake of Queen Elizabeth II & Prince Philip in 1947, when one tier was eaten on their wedding day & one was kept until the christening of Prince Charles, please read “Wedding Cake: a Slice of History

Wedding Homework List – Week 2

Last week we suggested 3 books that we recommend to help you plan and prepare for your big day. Did you think that was ALL of your homework? No way! It is the beginning of the school year which means a constant stream of homework! But we promise it will be FUN homework! We think these books are winners!

Book #1: How to Feed your Artistic Side

THE DIY BRIDE: 40 FUN PROJECTS FOR YOUR ULTIMATE ONE-OF-A-KIND WEDDING

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Book #2: How to Impress your New Family

EMILY POST’S WEDDING ETIQUETTE

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Book #3: How to be the Modern Groom

THE GROOM’S INSTRUCTION MANUAL: HOW TO SURVIVE AND POSSIBLY EVEN ENJOY THE MOST BEWILDERING CEREMONY KNOWN TO MAN

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Quote of the Week: Albert Einstein & Love

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“Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love? Put your hand on a stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with that special girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity.”

Albert Einstein

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The Invisible Wedding Guest

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You have seen many wedding albums shared among Friends, Family and Facebook. Who is the one person who is invisible in all of these albums? The Wedding Photographer! 

One of the biggest decisions you have to make in planning your wedding, after finding your dress, is choosing your wedding photographer. The world of photography has changed a lot in the past 10 years since we got married – so we definitely do not claim to be experts – but we do believe in doing your homework, asking lots of questions and meeting with at least 3 possible candidates to review their portfolios.

Now the experts will give you a different set of guidelines to follow and we recommend you consider them all! Here are 5 articles to get you started on your research:

Finding Your Wedding Photographer

Ten Tips For Hiring The Best Wedding Photographer (beautiful photos!)

I Hired a Cheap Wedding Photographer 

Look Before You Book!

How Much Do Wedding Photographers Cost? (reality check!)

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Welcome to Memory Lane!

Looking at the purpose of Keep the Cake: we want you to streamline your stuff and focus on what means the most to you (and your spouse).

Your wedding will probably be listed in the top 5 to 10 memorable and significant days in your life. And your guests will shower you with all sorts of ways to document the special event.

Look through all of your wedding supplies, decor and accessories to determine what is worth keeping for sentimental reasons. Will you create a photo album, a scrapbook, or a keepsake box? How do you determine what you should treasure forever and what you can let go of without any tears? It all comes down to what do you need to remember?

This is a good opportunity to have a vocabulary lesson from our dear friends at Merriam-Webster to help us start thinking about how to sort our closets, guest rooms & basements for a productive trip down Memory Lane:

Sentimental: Based on, showing, or resulting from feelings or emotions rather than reason or thought

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Keepsake: Something that you keep to help you remember a person, place, or event: a memento or souvenir

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Treasure: Something that is very special, important, or valuable

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Remember: To have or keep an image or idea in your mind of (something or someone from the past), to think of (something or someone from the past) again

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In summary, you will know what you want to keep and what you want to give away. It will probably be the special items that tug at your heartstrings and evoke memories of happiness from your special day. Nobody can tell you what items are more significant than others. I will say  to you that a keepsake does not have to be an expensive or fancy item. Maybe you want to keep a shell from your beach wedding or the cork from your first bottle of champagne opened at your reception…Because even the smallest trinket can carry great memories!

We recommend this adorable article about unique wedding keepsake stories:

Right Next to the Cake Topper? Why, That’s a Jar of Rainwater

Newlyweds Need Romance Too!

Everyone pictures the first couple years of marriage to be perfect “newlywed” years of bliss & romance everyday. But that isn’t reality. Life gets in the way. And work & responsibilities will always be part of Life. You need to nurture your marriage from Day One. Now is the time to start threading habits in your everyday routines or traditions to keep your marriage healthy & strong. Nothing big, extravagant or expensive. Just enough to remind you to not take your relationship for granted. Here is a few basic tips we suggest… They may seem obvious – but sometimes you overlook the basics! Proven Winners!

Tip #1: Pick up a Phone – Your partner is worth more than a text….sometimes a spontaneous phone call can brighten their day! Just the sound of your voice during a busy day at work may mean the world to themconversation-687877_1280

Tip #2: Random Acts of Kindness – Always keep in the back of your mind what little things make your partner smile. What little surprises can you sprinkle throughout the year? Breakfast in Bed has always been a classic surprise!

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Tip #3: Traditions & Routines – It is never too early to start traditions with your spouse. Romantic little moments that you make time for once a week. Maybe its a Friday Night Movie on the couch or Wednesday Night Stroll in the park after dinner. There is nothing wrong with scheduling romantic time in your chaotic lives!

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Tip #4: Write from the Heart – I have always been a fan of the love note found in my lunch box or taped to the bathroom mirror. It could be just a few words “I love you!” or it could be your classic love letter. It is one of those romantic gestures that you will carry with you for weeks, months or years. Every time you come across that little bit of paper with your spouses’s chicken scratch… you smile!woman-792162_1280

Tip #5: Laughter is the Best Medicine – Humor is sometimes the only thing you can depend on in your marriage. You will have unexpected Ups & Downs. You will have Wins & Losses. You don’t know what the future will hold. But if you can still make each other laugh, find humor in your mistakes and enjoy a good comedy together once in awhile…you will be okay!

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Tip #6: Just Because – It is customary to send flowers for Valentine’s Day, Birthdays & Anniversaries. I will tell you now. Don’t do it. Send flowers on a random Tuesday months after your spouse’s birthday or weeks before your anniversary. Just Because. Your spouse will love them 10 times more than any given holiday. They will feel like they won a special little lottery when they think the delivery man is walking to the woman 2 cubes from her but instead he stops at her desk. Just Because = She will Love you Forever!  

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Goldilocks & the 6 Weddings

Weddings come in all shapes & sizes. What wedding fits you? What is too big, too small or just right?

Wedding #1: Elope…a wedding for two!

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Wedding #2: Destination Wedding: Guest List = whomever can make it to your Dream Location!

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Wedding #3: Close Family & Close Friends

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Wedding #4: Immediate Family & Your Close Friends

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Wedding #5: Immediate & Extended Family, Your Close Friends  & Extended Friends, Your Coworkers & Business Acquaintances

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Wedding #6: Immediate & Extended Family, Your Close Friends & Extended Friends, Your Coworkers & Business Acquaintances…and your Parents’ Close Friends, Coworkers & Business Acquaintances

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In summary, your Wedding Guest List can quickly snowball if you do not set up your Guest List Criteria from Day One. Try to not let others tell you what size fits you (and your budget). You don’t want to feel squeezed into the wrong size wedding, because it will soon become apparent that you are uncomfortable and unhappy. Do what feels right in your heart and fits in your budget! And who knows, maybe your wedding will be Wedding #7: A Mix & Match of whomever you want to share your special day with!

For more reading on Guest Lists, we recommend:

Your Wedding Guest List Etiquette Questions Answered 

What the Size of your Wedding Might Say About your Marriage 

How to Create your Wedding Guest List 

 

Make a Statement with Your Flowers

What does the main color of  your wedding say about you?

Yellow: I am an Adventurous Bride who loves to Travel

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Purple:  I am a Sophisticated Bride who loves to Lead

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Orange: I am an Enthusiastic Bride who loves to be Creative

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Pink: I am a Compassionate Bride who love to be Charitable

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For More on Color Meanings We Recommend:

Choosing Your Wedding Colors According to Their Meaning

Sensational Color